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To Whom It May Concern,
I am writing to you on behalf of myself, my children, and my family, to let
you know about a deeply disturbing situation. I am an adoptee in the
process of searching for my birthfamily, and so far I have not had much
success. Apparently, I am not allowed access to information about who gave
birth to me, who my biological relatives are, or any information about my
heritage that may help me and my children live more informed and healthy
lives. I would like to find my birthfamily so that I may thank them for
what they did for me, the sacrifices they made for me, and for the gifts
they have given me. I would also like to know my medical history, you know,
something more than "no significant illnesses". I want to know some
specifics in an ongoing manner, so that I can actually fill out a medical
history form for my doctor (what a luxury!), and so that the 50% of my
childrens' medical histories which I have contributed will consist of more
than just me. And it would be nice just to KNOW, and not wonder all the
time. Don't people always say in times of distress that it is the "not
knowing" that is the hardest part? Imagine living with that everyday!!!
Of course, a large part of the problem is the fact that someone does know,
my information is out there, in fact, I know exactly where it is. I am just
not allowed to have it. I am not sure what the "powers that be" think
would
happen if they gave me the information, but just the same they won't give it
to me. They rather I beg, borrow and steal for the information, treating me
like a criminal (really, you should hear how people like records clerks
speak to me) when I attempt to piece together some semblance of a history.
It is humiliating and demoralizing to sneak around, feeling like I am doing
something shameful and being gleefully grateful for any scrap of information
tossed to me. And I am not alone.
There are hundreds of thousands like me. Adoptees, Adoptive parents, and
Birthparents. The media doesn't really want to hear about us. They like to
report on the one-in-a-million cases when adoption goes wrong. Apparently,
they aren't interested in the hundreds of thousands who are generally happy,
good people, who just want to bring their families a little closer, know
their histories, and know that the children they allowed other families to
raise are okay.
If you feel in any way that you are a position to help me or any of us,
please do not hesitate to contact me. I am here, on the internet, everyday,
praying that soon my own personal quest for the truth with be complete.
Thank you for your time,
Aileen
8-14-69
Aurora, IL
ACSenneff@ciudad.com.ar
