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THE PROPER WAY TO SEARCH
By: A.B.O.R.N.
#1)
The first IMPORTANT STEP to starting a search is to register
with the International
Soundex Reunion Registry. This is a
worldwide registry,
which is the most "KNOWN" registry.
There is no fee
for registering although donations are
accepted to help
keep the registry functioning. Send your
birthname if known,
your adopted name, your DOB, place of
birth and city
and state and county of birth with the registration.
The International Soundex Reunion Registry is the world's largest reunion registry and is a free service. Get your registration form by sending a Self- Addressed Stamped Envelope to: I.S.R.R. P.O. Box 2312
Carson City, Nevada
89702-2312
You can reach them by phone at (702) 882-7755
#2)
The next VERY IMPORTANT STEP is to write to the state in
which your adoption
was finalized to find out the "County"
within that state
in which your adoption was finalized.
You need to write
either to the Department of Health, or in
some states the
Department of Welfare. To receive the
correct address
to write to for the state in which your
adoption took place,
please go to the ABORN web page
and access that
information under the topic heading
"50 State Mailout
Project", or write to the Department of
Health or Welfare
in the correct state.
The ABORN page
is located at http://aborn.webring.tripod.com/ABORN/Webring/Aborn/
Click on the Aborn
current initiatives section to access
The 50 state Mailout
Initiative.
#3)
Once you know the "County" you were adopted in, you need
have a "Waiver
of confidentiality" placed on file with that
county to release
your name and contact information
in case any members
of your Birth Family are searching
for you and have
registered a waiver with the state.
ADOPTEE WAIVER,
The agency cannot release
your name or whereabouts without this waiver in place!
A sample waiver for adoptees in included below:
Adoptee "Waiver of Confidentiality" Sample
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Date:
Adoption Agency,
State Adoption Department.
Hospital of Birth Address
City, State, Zip
TO ALL CONCERNED PARTIES:
I herby formally request that this letter and/or copies hereof be
immediately placed in all records and files pertaining to my adoption as
follows:
(give adopted name)
(give date, time, place or adoption)
( and relinquishment if known)
This is to be considered my legal authorization to waive the
confidentiality guaranteed to me by any laws and/or organizations of the
state of (give name);
and includes all court records, agency records,
hospital records, and anything considered to be identifying information.
The effects of this waiver are to extend only to my birth parents, birth
siblings, any other blood relatives, and/or their legal representatives.
The following information may hereby be released in full to the above
mentioned parties;
My full name ( give present and maiden)
My current address (give address)
My current telephone# (give phone#)
This waiver gives my full and legal permission to release my present identity; with the exclusion of any reference to my adoptive parents,
and/or adoptive relatives. Please respond to this request, and should you refuse it, denote the state law that supports such action. This letter is to remain in full effect until otherwise revoked by myself in writing.
Sincerely,
(Your signature)
Address City, State, Zip
(Note: This letter should be notarized. It should be typed in a
formal fashion, and sent certified mail-return receipt requested. Keep
the receipt in your correspondence file attached to a copy of this
letter.
You should go to the agency that handled your adoption and have this
letter attached to your record immediately, the agency cannot release
your name or whereabouts to anyone without this waiver in place. If you live in a different state you may send the request by mail.
YOU ALSO NEED TO REGISTER WITH THE STATE REUNION REGISTRY IN THE PROPER STATE. SOME STATES DO CHARGE A FEE TO REGISTER IN THE REGISTRY AND INFORMATION ON THE PARTICULARS WHICH APPLY TO THE STATE YOUR DEALING WITH CAN ALSO BE FOUND IN THE" ABORN" " 50 STATE MAILOUT" INFORMATION SECTION OF THE ABORN WEBPAGE.
#4)
Once you know the correct county to contact, contact the
"County" in which
your adoption was finalized and request
your Non-Identifying
Information and medical information
from your adoption
files. For more specific infomation on
the proper place
to send your request also See the ABORN
50 State Mailout
section of the ABORN Webpage.
http://aborn.webring.tripod.com/ABORN/Webring/Aborn/
Non Identifying information. You can apply to the county in which you were born, to either the state office in the county if it was a state handled adoption or to the agency if it was a private adoption to obtain your non identifying information. This is a very important step to do as it will provide you with some information to go on , such as hosptial name,
lawyers name, doctors name, DOB, place of birth, Mothers physical description , possibly information on BFather.
Here is a sample letter to use when requesting your non-id
information.
SOME QUESTIONS TO ASK WITH YOUR NON-ID REQUEST
General information
What hospital was I born at?
What time was I born?
Was I in foster care?
Could you contact the foster parents? (I would like to meet them?) What
was the date of final adoption?
What was the court of jurisdiction?
Who was the delivering Doctor?
Who was the pediatrician that cared for me? Were there any lawyers involved?
Did either of my birthparents have any medical problems? Did my biological grandparents have any medical problems? Birthmother information
Of what descent was my birthmother?
What religion was my birthmother?
How tall was my birthmother?
What did my birthmother look like?
Did she have any other children?
Can you tell me their names? (at least first name?) When were they born?
Where were they born?
What was my birthmothers first name?
What was my birthmothers last initial?
What was my birthmothers date of birth? (at least year?) Where was my
birthmother born?
Where was my birthmother living when I was born? Where were my birthmothers parents from? (my grandparents?) Birthfather information
Was my birthfathers name listed on my original birthcertificate? Was he
aware of my existance?
Of what descent was my birthfather?
What religion was my birthfather?
How tall was my birthfather?
What did my birthfather look like?
Did he have any other children?
Can you tell me their names?(at least first names?) When were they born?
Where were they born?
What was my birthfathers first name?
What was my birthfathers last initial?
What was my birthfathers date of birth? (at least year?) Where was my
birthfather born?
Where was my birthfather living when I was born? Where were my
birthfathers parents from? (my grandparents?) Bring your
A sample letter for non-id request is included below:
NON-ID LETTER TO ADOPTION AGENCIES:
Include this letter with any form the applicable agency requires.
Date:____________
Dear ____________:
I am an adoptee seeking information about my birth parents. Please forward as much of this information as you possibly can to the address listed at the end of this letter. In addition to the items checked on the form, please include the following additional requests. All items listed below, unless otherwise indicated, refer to both my birth mother and birth father:
Full physical description of birth parents color of eyes
color of hair
age at my birth
height - weight
complexion -- any birthmarks, scars, tattoos? Nationality Religion
(special denominations)
Was I their first child? Any full siblings? Half siblings? The first
name of each birth parent. Where was each birth parent born?
Did they reside in (put city and state in which you -- adoptee--wereborn)
a. If answered "no",Were they from (put your state)?
Were they for another state and came to _______for my delivery andadoption?
Which state were they each from?The birthdate of each birth parent.
What was the occupation of each birth parent? What hobbies were known
for each birth parent? What level of education was attained for each
birth parent? In what county was my adoption concluded? Please list any
childhood diseases or surgeries known for each birth parent. Please list
any genetic disorders known for each birth parent. Please list any known
diseases or illnesses experienced by each birth parent.
a. were any of these diseases or illnesses experienced during my birth
mother's pregnancy with me?
b. were either birth parents exposed to German measles, polio or
tuberculosis during the pregnancy? (Note: if you were born after the
isolation of the AIDS virus, you may want to include that in this list.
You may also want to form a question with regard to their use of alcohol
and street drugs).
At the time of my adoption were my birth grandparents still living?
a. If not, what did they die from? b. What were their names?
At the time of my adoption were my birth great grandparents stillliving?
a. If not, what did they die from? b. What were their names?
Please include any medical records and/or information known for each
birth parent.
Please include any medical records, birth records, nursery log records
of my birth and any known subsequent medical treatment prior to adoption.
a. Name and address of the medical facility where treatment was administered.
b. Name and address of my delivery doctor.
c. Name and address of the attending pediatrician. Thank you for your
courtesy in assisting me with this information.
Sincerely,
___________________
Include your name and address here:
This is part one of the series entitled
THE PROPER WAY TO SEARCH
PART TWO OF THE SERIES BEGINS WITH THE RECEIPT OF YOUR NON-IDENTIFYING INFORMATION AND WHERE TO GO FROM THERE.
THIS SERIES IS WRITTEN BY JEEP DRIVING GENIUS
JeepDrivingGenius@email.msn.com
And is copyright protected by the ABORN organization.
Reproduction or replication is prohibited without signed written permission from ABORN and JeepDrivingGenius.
Thank You
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